I have watched the evolution of sin in families. And, trust me, I am by no means old, but I am old enough to see the variety of what people can and have chosen to do. I have seen thoroughly horrible people have wonderful children who go on to be amazing people because they refuse to be anything like their parents. But, I have also seen the opposite. I have seen amazing people have children who go on to become lost and rotten to the core, and they have no idea why they are so lost.
Is this truly ancestral, and does psychiatry have the answers. I don’t think so. Why? Because how can a science such as that, which has only mapped about 10% of the brain ever begin to have the answers? Maybe, when children are that lost, that is when we must turn our backs on them, and force them into a land of the lost so to speak, so that maybe they can find themselves. Does this kill us as their parents? Of course, but, where did the label of parenthood ever say this will be the easiest road you ever travel?
Our children have choices they face no different than we do. We must face our daily choices, as must they. And, when we were at their age, did the choices really seem so easy? No, it is only upon reflection and comparison to adult issues that suddenly the innocence of that age is gleaned. So, through our guidance, we can teach them. But the guidance must be wanted, otherwise, it will never be heard. Blah, blah, blah, well those are the most common words our children hear. Sometimes we must be creative in how we guide our children. So, get creative, and never loose hope.
The duality that makes us all up is beautiful, as long as you embrace it and stop seeing half of who you are as this evil bound for hell persona that God didn’t put there. The sooner you realize this, the sooner you can truly breath!
Be blessed, and free!